Sam had forgotten to log out of his secret e-mail account, the one he used to schedule hook-ups with escorts, exotic masseuses, and women he met in online chat rooms.
Stephanie found the password to Sam's account and was soon checking it several times a day. "Everyone says I should leave." Stephanie had good reasons for wanting to end her marriage.
Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.
Our commitment is to help others recover from sexual addiction, just as we have been helped.” As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.Like most partners, she initially didn’t buy into the concept of sex addiction (“it sounded like a pretty weak excuse for an affair”) and even when she did start to believe that her husband’s behaviour was compulsive, her friends didn’t (“they’d look at me in despair, asking since when had sexual desire became a monster that can’t be controlled”), leaving her feeling isolated.To be fair on Rachel’s friends, there is some debate about whether the term sex addiction is scientifically accurate, but the field of addiction is changing fast and emphasis is shifting from the substance to the psychological symptoms of addiction.Unlike many young mothers, Stephanie was in the position to leave an unhappy marriage and be able to provide a good standard of living for herself and her child. The following is a suggested treatment plan for couples dealing with sexual acting-out within a marriage. If an addict doesn't genuinely take ownership of his behaviors, recovery is not possible. Therapy and 12-step groups can also help the addict identify slippery-slope behaviors such as flirting, cruising, and using the computer without net nannies (that prevent the addict from clicking on porn sites). Typically, the addict reads aloud his sexual history, including behaviors that occurred within the marriage.
The therapist will assist the couple in processing this information and setting boundaries for acceptable behavior. Partners tend to be caretakers who structure their lives around the addict.When it was clear that Sam was not invested in saving the marriage, she was emotionally and logistically ready to leave.