Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.There will be differences, but they do not have to break the relationship. I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating: always pursue health.
For other people, although God may be leading them, the feelings for each other take time to develop.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.
"You're going crazy, Ann, and you're taking me with you." I burst into fresh tears. I have to work and I'm not quitting school and you know I'm not going to stop being involved at church! I paused for a second before continuing, "We're only three months into marriage and I'm already failing!
" It had been three months since Michael and I had gotten married. "Where are all of these expectations that you're putting on yourself coming from?
In that timeframe, I had started graduate school as a full time student, was working two jobs, had responsibilities at church, and felt the new and added burden of trying to keep our apartment sparkling and make dinner every night, not to mention trying to learn what it meant to be a wife. It's not like I care if everything is perfect in the apartment or if dinner is on the table every night.