The traditional approach to marriage is progressive.
Second, if the young man and woman are getting along, they may indicate a desire to enter into a more formal relationship.
Third, once the dowry has been completely paid and once a child has been born, guaranteeing that the wife-to-be is fertile, the families will come together for the formal native marriage ceremony.
A woman may be the head of a clan as easily as a man. This is more complicated than one might think, because a birth certificate is required, and most people don't have a birth certificate.