Take that last heart-melting thing that your partner did, whether accidental or intentional, and share it with them as one of your new favorite turn-ons.
If it’s a tricky conversation that is probably way more hyped up in your head than it is in real life, have a walk-and-talk chat about it.
You wouldn’t want to drop a heavy-conversation bomb on your partner out of nowhere, and in order to share a erotic thought effectively, you have to start with getting yourself in the mood.
If you'd like to begin having those conversations that aren’t always easy to start, here are a few ways to initiate or segue into it: You can be really playful with this.
It doesn’t seem like you’ve been sitting on a big secret for your entire relationship, you've just had a jostle to your memory.
This is for when you are sitting on a big secret, and it’s a super-hot fantasy that you can’t bear to keep to yourself any longer.
"I'd like to point out that "beautiful" has U in it.
But, 'quickie' has U & I together." "When a penguin finds its mate they stay together for the rest of their lives.
This is for the couple that celebrates creative thinking on the fly.
In talking about things either sexy (let's have a threesome!
) or serious (I was uncomfortable when you...), using tact is necessary.
That’s pretty sound advice coming from our elementary-school epoch; why is it that we leave that lesson behind as we get older?
Particularly in romantic relationships, using our words is a step out of our comfort zone, since it is always easier to just send non-verbal signals and hope that our partners can read our mind. Sex is an especially tricky topic for some couples to talk openly about, and discussing it either seems to put it into an analytical or critical view, neither of which are that appealing.Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?