The closer we get to our own innate joy (even when alone) the more we are able to recognize the same joy in others.And it’s a process—we don’t emerge from divorce happy and hopeful.As a divorced adult, we have been freed of all (most) of those constraints.Now, instead of suffering through the bad times, we can just move on.And when you are still reeling from the collapse of your marriage, you might be ready for some free love, but the completion of the work needed to actually enjoy it is still a few months or years down the road.♦◊♦For me, it was indeed, several years before I was ready (am ready) to enter into a joyful relationship.Before that time, I was interested in a relationship, but I was not bringing a full and healthy person to the table, so to speak.
Tips for spotting a bad date online before you agree to meet him in person. Listen, buddy, no one likes someone who's high-maintenance and high-drama and a cheater and a liar.One girl's boyfriend incessantly checked her phone for incriminating text messages.Another's demanded she check in with him every thirty minutes if she wanted to go out with her girlfriend. Find someone who's short hair, but doesn't really have a preference?
Dater, beware: steer clear of these tell-tale online dating profile warning signs.1. If he describes himself with the phrase “I’m just your average guy…,” take his word on it. Listens to jazz and reads Kundera and loves action movies and beer! Broken-hearted, newly single people don’t look for new friends on an online dating site. Go ahead and go out with him, but don’t say I didn’t warn you when he gently suggests you order the tofu at every meal you eat together. This is the sign of a man who has had little interaction with real, in-the-flesh women, and it should probably stay that way. Steer clear or be prepared to drink heavily on the date, especially if he focuses a lot of attention on that last one.
You'll have more stimulating conversation with the waiter when he tells you the specials. There's a reason he has nine pictures where he's smiling with his mouth closed. He's hiding a receding hairline, a weak chin, or a third nipple on his forehead. This is the sign of a man who has had little interaction with real, in-the-flesh women, and it should probably stay that way.7. You haven't even been out with him yet and he's already given you a rundown of all of the music, food, movies, and types of women he hates?